Important: The Chat Thread 2

[2005_Silverado]

Originally Posted by theholycow

think: Why don't you still have them, then?

was thinking same thing...he must be le trouble maker then

[stonehenge]

Yeah Mike, that bish sounds crazy. I went out with my wife for 7 years before I popped le question. She never pressured me or any of that shit

[MikeH]

Originally Posted by Juan!

Yeah Mike, that bish sounds crazy. I went out with my wife for 7 years before I popped le question. She never pressured me or any of that shit

she was even more crazy after we broke up. fairly certain she was neglected as a child or something. or whole family was kind of crazy though. shes married now and has a kid. i feel bad for that guy.

[theholycow]

Originally Posted by SarkOzy

I don't think that's the case. I know plenty of women who are as if not more strong willed than many men I know.

It's not about strength of will.

Meh, nevermind. Enjoy.

[stonehenge]

Seriously not sure how you are still married Rick you don't have kids to keep you with your wife and all you ever do when marriage is mentioned is tell everyone how bad it is and how they should avoid it.

[SarkOzy]

Originally Posted by theholycow

It's not about strength of will.

Meh, nevermind. Enjoy.

I know what you're saying. Sometimes the obvious isn't so obvious though, and there are myriad underlying reasons for what we perceive as a "problem" likely to encounter. At one point I thought that, but my views have changed.

Also I'll say my best friends have all been female, since practically forever, I had two female roommates in college and the overwhelming majority of my 23 first cousins (no we aren't mormon lol) are women.............so maybe I just don't notice it anymore. Lol

[theholycow]

Yes, not obvious, myriad underlying reasons...exactly.

Juan, my wife and I went through a rough patch that really forced me to grow and open my eyes. At that time I studied heavily. I looked into how others' relationships work and discovered patterns. You know how I learn about cars now, to the point that I went from "I can change my oil" to "I can change my Buick to have a manual transmission"? Same type of effort but with much, much higher stakes and much more volume of said effort.

We've both grown and improved and we have a strong, decently healthy marriage now (except for a few sticking points, like the kids thing). I don't want to not be married to her. I could if it came to that; if the shit were to hit the fan I could walk away...but that would suck.

[stonehenge]

Well see then why do you automatically tell everyone that marriage is the devil?

Me and my wife got through our differences and whatnot in the beginning. We dated seriously, no drama, and moved in together before getting engaged. Worked out all the kinks and had a short rough patch with a little break up, and then everything has been great since. Then I asked her to marry me.

So marriage isn't evil if you have the right person and you both are sure that you're compatible and can learn to overlook the others shortcomings, work together on some things, have your own time for other things.

Marrying someone within the first couple years of knowing them can be bad and in my opinion marrying someone before living with them is asking for trouble.

[JayBo]

I'm living proof of this...

[swab]

a very wise, but financially bound man once told me that if a woman truly loves you she'll sign a prenup. his ex wife did neither of these things.

[SarkOzy]

bishplz, hippies don't need prenups

[Manbearpig]

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haz subwey

[race2c]

oh hai.

[RM90]

Cam foo, field trip is today

[race2c]

in and out of class all day. trying to figure out le shitstorm of gmfs.

gotta do some noise sampling stuff for murray state game tonight.

[RM90]

lmfao, just got the other tail light. These foos wrapped this light with 39074320173903098 sheets of paper.

[Barrrf]

Why dont people understand the concept behind personal sized food items? I went and bought a small bottle of ranch for my salads yesterday and put it in the mini fridge with my name on it. Sure enough douche down the hall come up to me today and ask "hey can I have some of that ranch for my salad?" Im like meh wahtever not expecting him to flood his salad. FML. I know TL;DR

[theholycow]

Originally Posted by Juan!

Well see then why do you automatically tell everyone that marriage is the devil?

It's right when you want to have kids. When you don't, it really doesn't serve a purpose except to exacerbate any problems you might have and trigger the time bomb inside of most women.

Me and my wife got through our differences and whatnot in the beginning. We dated seriously, no drama, and moved in together before getting engaged. Worked out all the kinks and had a short rough patch with a little break up, and then everything has been great since. Then I asked her to marry me.

Perhaps having the rough patch and break-up first helps. We dated for 9 years with almost no rough patches and certainly no break-ups then got married...

So marriage isn't evil if you have the right person and you both are sure that you're compatible and can learn to overlook the others shortcomings, work together on some things, have your own time for other things.

"work" is the key. What for, though? What do you get out of it that you can't have without it?

I'll tell you what I have. Dependence. I can't fucking sleep without her next to me. I get lonely when I don't see her. Etc.

[2005_Silverado]

i miss me woman but I can def function 100% w/o her....having her next to me is def a plus though

[theholycow]

Don't get me wrong. I don't think marriage is inherently bad. I do think everyone assumes they should get married, without actually having a good/real reason to do so. As such, I challenge that assumption. On top of that, if they can't work through a few grizzled old souls telling them all the reasons why they shouldn't get married then they probably don't have what it takes to be part of a healthy marriage.

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And if they can't listen and seriously consider what folks like me say about marriage then they probably don't have what it takes to be part of a healthy marriage too, but they'll get married anyway.

[Barrrf]

FBGM

[theholycow]

^Plus, I was just about to post FBGM, but that guy beat me to it.

[Manbearpig]

Cool!

[2005_Silverado]

wuts wrong with this pic?

[theholycow]

Car is pitching a tent?

Pink lettering on driving school sign indicates a woman driving teacher?

No evidence of the wreck other than the damage to the car?